Remember when you were a kid and you got an invitation to your friend’s birthday party?  That special feeling knowing that you were invited, someone thought of you and wanted you to share in their special day.  What a great feeling!  Consider also, however, those times when you were not included when perhaps you learned about an event from someone else but didn’t get the invite.  How did that make you feel?  Maybe you felt hurt or questioned whether people didn’t like you.  The sense of belonging and acceptance teaches us an important lesson on our spiritual journey.  Deep down our souls already know that we are all one, part of the same collective consciousness.  Yet, in this 3D world when we feel uninvited or excluded, it hurts.  We start to question our value/worthiness, and place doubts/fears that keep us in that separation mindset – those who were invited, somehow being different or more worthy from those who weren’t.  So why then do we feel the need to be liked or accepted – the need to be invited at all?  I personally have struggled with acceptance all my life, the desire to be liked by others, to please everyone around me, and even going so far as to change who I am just to fit in.  Maybe you’ve done the same.  Why do we do this?  What are we seeking and what is this spiritual message these feelings bring?

In my view the need for acceptance is about attachment.  Attachment to the idea that the validation of others is the path to your own happiness and the only reassurance that you are like everyone else and won’t be ridiculed or ostracized.  What a paradox that is!  Because we were created as unique individuals so that we could express our own human signature with others.  Each of us bringing a special personality, perspective and energy to this world.  One that we were meant to share, not change to conform or worse yet – to hide away.  We’re meant to be seen for who we are and the reality is that not everyone in their own spiritual path is ready for who we really are.  Sometimes we are too much for some or not enough for others.  But that’s OK, b/c we don’t have to be all things to everyone.  And something that has helped me immensely is to recognize that every human being on this planet is at their own level or frequency of resonance with the universe.  So the hard truth in all of this is that there will be times when people may not align with who you are, when we don’t get invited, or may even be discord between you and another person.  What this journey of acceptance has taught me, is that I need to first accept myself as who I am and then take that 1 step further to understand that anyone/everyone else is who they are – which may not always equate to acceptance.  It can also help to imagine different levels of acceptance, for example when you meet someone for the first time you/they may not have fully developed a level of trust to feel comfortable sharing everything that makes you who you are, yet at the same time there are people that you meet who are instantly aligned and you feel like you’ve known them your whole life and could share anything with them.  The key take-away is this, whether you get a formal invitation or not, you matter!  Just as you are – you matter!  Some people are ready to meet you where you are  to extend that invitation and others are not.  For those who are not, I send them many blessings and continue focusing on my own happiness and sharing that with those who are ready for me to join the party. 

I hope these words have brought newfound inspiration on your spiritual journey.  Until next time, much love and light to you all.